“Love is the power and Self Love is very important before you jump into any relationship. Don’t jump on the ship with fears and load of ego. Ship will sink one day and you will end up with more confusion and stress.”
Question asked ” if we are already in the ship, and our partner doesn’t cooperative? and creating a new fear?”
There are 2 people, one you & other is your partner. I see 3 cases
1) Both are going through their own issues thus its bringing more issues in the relationship
2) One of them is conscious enough to understand who is into the relationship…Is it love or fear?
3) Both are conscious and it’s a perfect match.
We are going to discuss #2
Let’s say you are that person who is conscious. Now, you can transform the situation by accessing the state of being.
No doubt that it’s challenging because you have awareness that reacting, anger etc won’t help the situation. Remembrance will help you to handle this situation.
Remembrance that our true nature which is love. You can help by giving more love to your partner and it’s possible when you have enough to give.
If you don’t react then he or she will act in favor of peace after many reactions because he or she will feel your peace. Spiritual journey is an inward journey and you don’t need to wait for others to access state of being…Inner peace.
Frustration and then actions taken because of it results in serious impact on others during those actions and then more stress on a person after the actions taken.
He or she realizes that it happened because of anger, which was caused because of frustration.
Frustration is a feeling of dissatisfaction, often accompanied by anxiety or depression…anxiety because of eagerness.
Let’s start from this screen… You keep clicking a browser window to open, but it’s not loading because of technical issue. You are eager to chat with a friend or check your mail, etc., which results in frustration.
You are waiting for a call, and you started getting to frustrate as he or she is not calling, and you want to talk so badly or there is a fear that he or she may not call…for example: your first date and then waiting on response for 2nd one.
Work related issues…Sometimes you end up with real lazy people who just don’t want to work, and then you start getting to frustrate.
You are working on something but your kids want attention & they keep asking for it…You get to frustrate and start yelling.
Aim for big goals with the remembrance of your true nature which is love. Is this your attitude “whatever, I just need to finish this task and leave” this will definitely cause frustration if that task does not finish the way you expecting
If a computer browser is not working then divert your focus on something else or patience …
Don’t worry about your first date…Pay attention to the present moment you have with that person. You may be in 20′s or 30′s or 40′s, and you feel that it’s so difficult to find a date, and if I lose this one then I have to start all over again.
What’s happening here?
Its living in the future with the fears and expectation attached to the action while dealing with a new friend.
Work related issue: You cannot change that person so try to find alternatives, and if there is none then escalate to the management and in case that’s not the choice then accept as it is or create more choices like job change.
Kids: Remembrance and aim attached to the goal. If your aim is to get work done just because you don’t like work sitting there but there is a possibility of wait then its something needs to change. You can deal with something “kids” right away and then deal with work. In case that’s impossible then communication is the key. Tell kids to wait and help them to understand.
Conscious mind acts….
Unconscious mind reacts…